How we react

A few Sundays back I was driving home with my daughters in the car. All of a sudden there was a terrible screeching sound coming from my front tyre. The sound very much resembled fingernails being scrapped against a blackboard. It was terrible. Me, being the only adult in the car was trying to remain calm, thinking ‘I just need to get home safely’. Whereas my daughters had more of a reaction of fear, worry, and panic. Luckily the next day we found that it was just a little stone caught in my wheel and the solution was quite simple.

My daughters expressed a very natural reaction about how they were feeling in the situation. I didn’t show them the panic I was actually feeling inside. What if there is something seriously wrong with the car? How much money will this cost me? What if I can’t use my car for work? No matter what distress I was feeling, I was choosing to display a different response in this situation in order to create a calm that my daughters needed to regain a feeling of safety. If I had chosen to display my actual emotional reaction it would have completely changed the situation and made the atmosphere a lot worse.

Often in life things can happen that create different responses and reactions from us. People can say things to upset us or make us angry. We have a choice whether we react emotionally or respond thoughtfully. Sometimes our reactions are not thought through and our initial feelings about a situation rise up and actually have the potential to make things worse. Sometimes we need to just take a step back and think about how to respond in the situation.

That Sunday even though I wanted to react negatively to the car screeching, I chose to think calmly and positively. Each of us has the same choice to make when we are faced with a situation that can evoke either a negative reaction or a positive response. Whatever you face this week I implore you to try and take a step back, a deep breath and choose a positive approach. In Proverbs 13:16 it says “Wise people think before they act; fools don’t—and even brag about their foolishness.”No matter what we may face let’s choose to be wise in our responses by thinking before we act from here on out.

Emily Hart
Kings Lynn Christian Fellowship


Donald Trump, eh? Good grief! He’s now the President of the United States and spent his first day in office telling the world that there were record numbers at his Inauguration on Friday when we have photographs showing a low turnout. It’s going to be an interesting 4 years!
I marched on the Women’s March on London last Saturday. It was in solidarity with the march on Washington and one of 700 marches across 70 countries. We marched to stand up for and defend the rights and freedoms of all people. As Yvette Cooper said at the rally in Trafalgar Square: ‘we’re marching because the most powerful man in the world says it’s ok to sexually assault women because he is rich and powerful and we say no way!’ It was incredible to be with 100,000 people bringing London to a halt. There were quite a lot of children, older women, babies, men and even dogs! The signs were so creative, some rude, some very funny. My favourite signs were ‘we shall overcomb’ and ‘I am very upset.’
Feminism gets a bad press but it’s simply believing that women deserve the same dignity and respect as men. I’m a feminist because 1 in 4 women in this country will experience domestic violence in their lifetime and 2 women are killed a week by a current or former partner. I’m a feminist because around the world girls are married off whilst they are still children and often die giving birth. And I’m a feminist because women billions of pounds are made every year by fashion, make up and cosmetic surgery industries from constantly telling women that our bodies are not good enough.
I marched in my clerical collar because I wanted to represent the Church of England. The Church has been slow to allow women as leaders, only agreeing to consecrate women bishops in 2014, but there are many of us who are feminists because of our faith, not in spite of it. Jesus spent his ministry defending and encouraging women: he saved a woman from being stoned to death, he stood up for women who were being criticized, he taught and encouraged women in their faith and he came to live among us to release and liberate all oppressed and downtrodden people. I marched as a feminist on Saturday – and as a Christian.

Reverend Laura Baker
Curate of King’s Lynn Minster

The Wedge


To say my D.I.Y skills are limited would be an understatement! Helping demolish things though, is one thing I definitely can do! I was recently asked to help ‘take down’ a summerhouse, but this thing had clearly been built well. It was made up of several strong individual panels, each one tightly interlocked with the next. The plan of attack, was unanimously agreed… Take crowbars, and use them to drive a wedge between each panel, pushing them apart. Away we went and then… Crash!!! First the roof came in, along with the guy who’d been up on it! That hurt!! Then the walls came down! Driving a wedge, left things in pieces!

It’s interesting how when we hear of relationships breaking down; people often talk about something that (quote) ‘drove a wedge between them.’ Just like that summerhouse, it caused a division, pushed them apart, spoiled things, and now it’s in pieces.

When God first created man and woman, they’d walk with God, talk with Him, enjoy His company and He theirs. Their relationship was strong! It was good! But a day came when they stopped listening to God, and they followed after what they wanted. They sinned. The result? A wedge was driven between them and God, pushing them apart. Sin spoilt their relationship, caused a division, and things came crashing down!

That’s what sin does, and the Bible says we’ve ‘all sinned’. We’ve all driven this wedge between ourselves and God!

God never wanted that! He loves us, longs for a close relationship with us, wants to one day welcome us into heaven, to spend eternity together, but what we see is our sin keeps us apart.

There’s good news though! Jesus gave His life on the cross to remove the wedge of sin! He done it, because God loves you too much to leave things the way they are!

You can know God! Have a close relationship with Him! Feel His love! Know He is with you! Be certain that one day He will welcome you into heaven! How? Get the wedge that separates you from all of that, removed!

How? Put your trust in Jesus, ask Him to forgive your sins, and ask Him into your heart. 1 Pet 3:18 ‘Christ also suffered once for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God.’

Darryl Mallet
Pastor – KLCF

Jesus take away our fear

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Don’t get me wrong, some fear is healthy and good for us. The fear of getting burnt if we touch a hot stove is a healthy fear. But some fears are totally irrational. I took my wife to Paris when were students to ask her to marry me. My plan was to go on one knee on first stage the Eiffel Tower, but my irrational fear of heights prevented me going up the steps (we were too poor for the lift!) It had to be on the Arc D’Triomphe, which is ironically only 7m less high!
I tried my hand at abseiling once – poised on the edge knees knocking with fear, the instructor told me FEAR stands for False Expectations Appearing Real. It was safe, the two ropes were capable of holding a car, so my expectation they would snap was false. The answer to some irrational fears – the ones based on False expectations is a bit of thinking to realise they are not real.
The American Presidential campaign is being run on the politics of fear. Pandering to fear gets votes. I guess for most of us Brits, our main fear is Donald Trump getting in – what a buffoon!
The fear of stepping out can be debilitating. Are you held back by fear? As Joyce Meyer writes “Are there any areas in your life that are being stifled because of fear? Satan is always going to bring fear against us at various times. It’s one of his major weapons—not a cap gun, but a cannon.”
The answer to these fears is a relationship with God. “Do not be afraid” is one of the most common commands in the Bible. It’s a command backed up with a promise “Fear not, for I am with you.” Knowing God personally means we can face fears. The Message paraphrase of the Bible puts it like this “God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.”
If you want to get rid of fear in your life – why not pray to Jesus and ask Him to take it from you.

Andy Moyle
The Gateway Church


Christians have just celebrated the greatest religious days of the year, culminating in Easter Day. The three days of intensive prayer and religious ceremonies – Maundy Thursday, Good Friday and Holy Saturday recall the Passion and death of our Lord Jesus Christ. Easter Day marks Christ’s rising from the dead.
At Easter the followers of Jesus were amazed that their Master had risen and had appeared to various followers. All the while they gathered for prayer. It would be no surprise if they prayed the Our Father, the prayer Jesus taught them.
Through the ages Christians have said together this most comprehensive of prayers. With a reverence for God and a desire that his rule on earth may be complete, believers ask for their ‘daily bread’, asking too that they may have their offences forgiven, as they forgive others. This is a difficult task. We can say we pardon others, but even easier recall old grievances.
In these troubled times with fighting in Syria, tension and differences in Ukraine, armed bands and lawlessness in other parts of the world, people seek peace.
In the Catholic Mass, the priest says before the sign of peace: ‘Lord Jesus Christ, you said to your apostles: I leave you peace, my peace I give you. Look not on our sins, but on the faith of your Church, and grant us the peace and unity of your kingdom where you live for ever and ever’.
John Cairns, King’s Lynn Catholic Church

100% Death Rate


What do you feel about the health controllers who want to legislate our food into being good for us? Those who want to ban salt in processed food, for example. They tell us how many thousands of lives will be saved if we all follow their directives. I’m all in favour of healthy eating and when I get my fish and chips I like to put the salt and vinegar on them myself! But the serious point is the fallacy that we can make ourselves immortal. The death rate is 100% – we shall all die and ignoring that truth doesn’t help live a full life.
We shall all die and how we face that truth affects how we live our lives now. Is death extinction, or a new and greater adventure in life? Our answer that question makes a great deal of difference to how we live every day. I dislike Henry Scott-Holland’s poem, “All is Well.” It begins “death is nothing at all,” but it is taken to mean, “bereavement is nothing at all,” which it certainly isn’t. Grief is devastating and trying to pretend that the death of someone we love doesn’t affect us is no way to find healing. But if there is infinitely more to life than surviving another day, then each day can be illuminated by the reality of eternal life. That is the hope and the joy that Jesus offers.
Chris Ivory
King’s Lynn Minster


In 2000, Paddy Henderson received a call from a mother in Salisbury, while fundraising for Bulgaria. She told him ‘my children are going to bed hungry tonight – what are you going to do about it’. Shocked to find on investigation that so many local people faced short term hunger resulting from sudden crises, Paddy started a foodbank in his garden shed providing three days of emergency food to local people in critical need.
In 2004 Paddy Henderson and his wife set up the Trussel Trust on the model that he had already developed. So the UK foodbank was launched teaching churches and communities how to set up their own foodbank.
Helped by churches, schools, individuals, Borough Council, businesses, charities and, especially, by individuals our local Trussel Trust foodbank based in the Purfleet Trust has helped to provide food for 1456 people in crisis (a tonne of food per month).

Next year, increased household bills, potential job losses, especially in the public sector, and welfare reform will increase the demand.

We can put the question to ourselves: what are we going to do about it?
John Cairns


Frustration from
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Have you ever had that feeling that you really want to thump someone. Have you ever been so
frustrated at a situation, or a person that all of your civilised 21st century ways go out the window
and you just want to punch someone?
When Jesus came into the Temple and saw what people were using the house of God for –
money lending, trading and similar, he was so frustrated, so passionately against what they were
doing that he took action. That’s an understatement, he wrecked up the place, driving the people
out, and turning over the tables.
There are plenty of things in our world that cause us frustration, and give us that feeling that we
just have to do something or we’ll go crazy. Unfortunately most of them are fairly petty concerns
to do with work or similar, when in our world there are much bigger concerns to get frustrated
about. Poverty, curable diseases running rampant, children as young as seven being sold into
sexual slavery. Surely that’s worth shouting about, worth getting frustrated about, worth tipping
over some tables about?
Just please don’t punch anyone!
Kieran Woodward – Assistant Leader King’s Lynn Baptist Church

Being Good isn’t good enough

Damned by Despair
Why do people think Christianity is about being good? It isn’t. Being good or bad is not the point. Being loving might be the outcome, but not the starting point.
Recently I saw a play called “Damned by Despair” – a new version by Frank McGuiness of a play written in about 1635. Paulo is a monk living in the desert being very holy. Enrico leads a city gang and is as bad as possible. Paulo is certain God will have to let him into heaven, but the devil, disguised as an angel, tells him to find Enrico because his fate will be the same as Enrico’s. “If Enrico goes to heaven, that’s where you’ll go, if Enrico goes to hell, you likewise.”
Paulo is sure Enrico must go to hell. Therefore, according to the angel, so will Paulo. So what’s the point of being good – he might as well enjoy himself being as bad as he can!
Enrico is condemned to death, but still believes in God. Persuaded by his father, he turns to God and repents. He’s hanged, and goes to heaven. Paulo is too proud to repent. If God is so unjust as not to let him into heaven when he was being good, he’s not going to ask forgiveness for being bad. Paulo is shot, and goes to hell.
What kind of sense does that make of Christianity?!
About the year 400 there was a very nice Scotsman call Pelagius. He went to Rome and became a popular Christian teacher. He taught people that following Jesus was about being good. There was also a man called Augustine. He’d been a bad lad in his youth and realised it wasn’t as simple as that. We are a mess of good and bad. Our motives are always mixed and we can’t make ourselves good – only God can do it. Christians argued about this for decades, but in the end, they decided Augustine was right.
It’s like at Alcoholics Anonymous, the first step has to be admitting we have a problem we can’t sort out on our own – we need help. Trying to do it on our own, doesn’t work.
Sin is not about morality, it’s about the fact that we are broken. Christianity is about realising that only God can mend us, and he does it in Jesus because he wants to, not because we deserve it.
Canon Chris Ivory
King’s Lynn Minster

White Rabbits

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There are just too many white rabbits about! – No, not literally rabbits that are white – but the sort of folk that rush about constantly telling everyone else how busy they are.
Last week, while waiting for a meeting to start, a colleague said “there just aren’t enough hours in the day.” She was out of breath and clearly under stress. On the other hand, a previous boss of mine – many, many years ago, told me that if, at the end of a day, if you asked yourself “could I have done anything more, or better” and the answer was “no”, then why worry about what you DIDN’T do! It took me many years to really take that advice on board.
What I now realise is that the important “things” that I prioritise are people – hopefully my family first – but apologies when I get THAT wrong! Not that other tasks are not important – but many things can be left. I now find life gives me unexpected “windows” of time to do things I thought would take ages to achieve. I also enjoy having to wait (usually!). If unprepared I will sit/stand and think through things. I will think about the people who are either important to me or who may be needing me to do something. As a Christian I frequently use this time to pray – for the same people just mentioned. I am often asked to pray for someone or someone’s relations. Or if anticipating a wait – at an appointment, for example, I will take a book or my kindle and enjoy the chance to read in peace. People usually apologise for keeping me waiting, but I really don’t mind!
“Wasting time” is such a silly phrase. Are we so important that we think we are indispensable. Sometimes is just sitting around, or having a drink with a friend or friends, reading the newspaper or a book, pottering in the garden, writing a letter/email to friends not as important as other things that we HAVE to do – or think we have to do.
Yes we need to do certain things – but not at the expense of the people we love and others who really do need our time.